Physical Imperfections

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  1. Jason says:

    I know what you mean man. I don’t judge you at all for losing weight to change the way you look. You look great now!!!!

  2. Greg says:

    I gotta say, you pegged me for a ‘T’ on that post. My number 1 goal is to be able to fit into roller coaster, number 2 is fly in a plane… in one seat.

  3. Joe says:

    I hate having to go to the big and tall store to find a t-shirt that fits. Sure, I can buy a 3XL at Wal-Mart, Old Navy, or a sporting goods store, but they’re not made the same way and they’re too tight. Meanwhile 3XLs from the Big & Tall are actually loose. Talk about messing with one’s mind…

    I completely feel you on not being able to fit into a booth at a restaurant. It’s an embarrassing mental failure, too.

  4. Rob says:

    I’ve been there! I have lost 81lbs so far (weigh-in is tonight) since January and I’ve never felt better. I partially started because of appearance, also because I had tweaked my back and figured that losing the weight couldn’t hurt.

    I never thought that I would feel comfortable in my own body, EVER. It’s finally starting to happen!

    Keep up the good work and keep inspiring people to get healthy!

  5. beej says:

    Or not being able to go to the theater or a game because I can’t fit in the seats. And yeah, my wife and I went to Disneyland last year, adn I couldn’t fit in a couple of rides (a lot of others were just plain uncomfortable)–man, it’s so humiliating to stand in line for 20 minutes just to try to sit in the car and then have to get up want wait for whoever you’re with to be done with the ride. But that won’t be my problem for long!!

  6. Mustang Sally says:

    I just feel like I take up so much more space than the people around me. As if I’m not self-conscious enough, now I’m hyper-conscious. I see co-workers slip easily through spaces I have to heave and squirm through, I see how much closer they can stand to the counter, because they don’t have my belly.

    Fabulous job, my thinning friend. You give me hope that someday, something can change for me, and I can be like you.

  7. Cliff says:

    I have lost 20 pounds since January, and I want to continue to lose weight 1) for my health; 2) so I am not so tired at the end of a bike ride: 3) I also want to lose weight so people don’t look at me and call me fat.

  8. bossymommy says:

    Tyler, you…look…maaaahvelous. Many people don’t understand how, when you’re very overweight, it’s on your mind constantly. Things most people would never think twice about, we stress over. “Is that lawn chair gonna break when I sit in it? Will I have to ask for a seat belt extender on the plane?” Are the kids in my daughter’s class gonna tell her her mom is fat?” It’s on our minds CONSTANTLY, so to say that wanting the outward appearance to change is a trivial wish is ridiculous. The stressors are constant and neverending, day in and day out. To be relieved of those is absolutely liberating. Keep it up, T.

  9. Coryad says:

    Roller coasters for me too…. I want that thing to come over my head and NOT smash the living hell out of my boobs, then squash everything onto my jelly belly. Simple.

  10. Matt says:

    I’m quite a bit behind you, having started in July. But in 8 weeks, I’ve lost 35lbs. My wife hugged me last night and said it was amazing how different I felt. Considering I still have a long way to go, that’s a boost!

    I hadn’t reached the point where I couldn’t fit in an airplane seat, etc because I carry my weight in my chest and shoulders (ex footballer), but I know that the next time I do fly it will be a lot more comfortable.

  11. Tyler says:

    I wasn’t aware you still read my blog. ;p

  12. BodyByPizza says:

    Great post! I’m down 74.5 lbs since Dec/Jan because I OUT GREW my favorite store and spent every waking hours miserable as hell. I couldn’t tie my shoes. I couldn’t fit into the first car I bought. I could barely wipe my ass. Fuck looking sexy, I just wanted my life back.

    -Rachel

  13. Phatfighter says:

    When I first saw this post, I thought “great another post for people to cry about how ugly they feel” Then I ended up enjoying and relating to every last word. The truth is, as a bigger person there are things in this world that just don’t accomidate us. Recently my boyfriend took me to New Orleans (I live in las vegas) for my birthday. I was TERRIFIED because I wasn’t sure I was going to fit into one seat. I didn’t know if I would be able to face the embarrassment of him seeing that. Luckily I made it through, But I did end up fighting tears on the second plane as I had to ask for a seat belt extender. Your absolutely right, when you go out to dinner with a friend or loved one I used to LOVE sitting in booths, now i dread them. Luckily I’m not a big amusement park/ride fan lol so that doesn’t bother me. But when I’m searching for a new apartment based on how easy it is for me to maneuver around it, then its time to stop and take a look. I love myself the way I am, it took me along time to learn how to, But strangely enough loving myself the way I am has made it so much easier to make the commitment to change my life.

  14. Erin says:

    I agree 100% on this one… It’s pretty horrifying to go to the GYM, and realize that some of the ab machines are too small for you… that I can’t fit into them to do the EXERCISE… I’ve been overweight all my life, and it’s constantly on my mind. I want to lose weight for all the reasons you’ve mentioned, but sometimes when asked, it’s just easier to say, “I want to be thinner…”

  15. BigV says:

    All this is so true. I am tired of worrying about if I will fit in a seat on a plane? Can I ask for the booth in this place or do I need a table? Will everyone look at me weird at the gym and criticize me? I’m tired of it. It has nothing to do with vanity in the sense that I need to look good for others. I need to look good for myself and get the freaking constant stress off my mind of those silly but mentally exhausting questions.

    Thanks for the blog Tyler. It not only helps you but helps others as well. Keep up the great work and best of luck on hitting your goal.

  16. Dee says:

    Amen to everything you’ve just said!

    The worst experience of my life, being a very tall woman and one who is usually told, ‘Oh, but you carry your weight so well,’ was to try to sit in a restaurant booth, and while I could fit, it was SNUG and certainly not comfortable – I switched to a table. I haven’t gone on amusement rides for years. I don’t wear bathing suits in public if I can help it – so I miss out on the joys of trips to the beach, swimming at the lake, etc. The thing I don’t like about me is that my self-image, due to being overweight, has prevented me from being outgoing, confident and proud – I hate that I miss out on things that others are enjoying, or that my son misses out on things that others are enjoying because Mommy has no energy, or Mommy can’t swim in the ocean with him… it is things like this that break my heart and have pushed me to go all of the way this time. 16 pounds down, at least 60 to 90 more to go – but at least I’m making more progress than I ever did and am more motivated than ever. It is blogs like yours that inspire me to keep going, so thank you for sharing your story along the way…

  17. kate says:

    It’s not conceited to worry about what you look like. We’re a very, very visual species especially when it comes to mates and in this day and age, livelihoods. Better looking people get promotions more, make more money, get hired more often and are thought to be better people strangely. They still have better chances of mating. Now, with women making comparable salaries (at least in America) they choose men by looks more and more often over financial reasons.

    It is not conceited to want to look good. It is only conceited when that becomes the most important factor in decisions involving other people and yourself. Then it becomes damaging because no matter who you are, your looks will fade.

    Plus I’m a clothes/shoe whore and, while I don’t believe a size 2 is most attractive, I do believe that being a healthy weight lends itself to more and better options in that department.

  18. kate says:

    Ok with the tall thing I totally hear ya. Just keeping your knees intact in compact cars and airplane seats is a fiasco. If your height is proportionate to your weight you’re already bigger than other people so more weight, no matter how well-carried, becomes a huge pain.

  19. Jessica says:

    As I read everyone of these, I see myself in the answer. Ive been working on the weights since March and it started because I didn’t want to be so fat for a vacation where I wore a bathing suit. Over the weekend though, the reasons for losing switched from vanity to health as I watched my husband fight to breathe when he had weight related complications to surgery. Its made me realize no matter how good we look naked, the real reason behind this needs to be our health.

  20. Tyler says:

    I’m sorry to hear that — I hope he’s feeling much better now.

  21. Tyler says:

    It certainly does. I can’t believe all the different types and styles of clothes available to me! There certainly weren’t these many options in the Big & Tall sections.

  22. Brenda says:

    On the subject of loose skin. Unfortunatly, for some people, like women who have had multiple C-sections and then a hysterectomy, the only fix for my tummy was a tummy tuck. Boy did it work. Yes it was expensive and very painful for two weeks, but if I had it to over again, I would still have it.
    After my kids births and the hysterectomy, I was left with a flab of skin that overhang and I could not get rid of it even when I went down to 121 lbs. It was always there and not only did I hate the way it looked, it also got in the way. So I went under the knife and the doc. removed 10 pounds of fat and skin from my tummy. He even made me a new belly button and it looks great. My scar is barely visible. I had over 200 stitches. He said he does it that way to minimize the scar.
    But also, I was 45 years old at the time. When we age and our skin looses elasticity, it’s harder to get it to “fit” on our frame again after weight loss. I don’t want to do any surgery for something like arms or legs but for the belly area, for me anyway, I’m glad I did it. Flabby skin gone!

  23. Holly says:

    I have a long list of reasons I am on this mission to fitness and appearance is only one. You’re right – it’s not so much the way we look as the way the world looks at us when we are obese. Not to mention the things we can’t do. My big motivator is not having to shop at plus size stores or plus size departments. Last week I realized I could buy and fit into almost anything they sold at Victoria Secret. This was a lifetime first and such a huge milestone in me feeling “normal” and “feminine” that I can’t even begin to explain it to someone who hasn’t been there.

  24. Molly says:

    I found your blog through my friend Scarlet Simple’s blog. I’m just starting to read your blog but I can see from your pictures that you have made amazing progress… This post (which is the first that I’ve read) really speaks to me. I love amusement parks. I love rides and roller coasters. i can even fit on most of the ones at Hershey Park; Every time I am in line I find myself starting to panic. What if I don’t fit. What if they can’t get it to click. I’m almost in tears by the time I get there and sometimes I don’t. What if I have to get off in front of everyone. I hate it.

    Reading what you’ve written makes me want to stick to everything I’m trying. It makes me want to say for sure that next summer I won’t have to worry. Thank you.

  25. maja says:

    If you don’t have too much stretch marks firming your skin will be easier. It will take a long time though.The thing that worked for me was maintaining a stable weight! Then doing a little bit of weight lifting for my arms, abs and long cardio workouts. Running is pretty good. There was improvement after a year ( I was working three times a week), but it was very little. These last two months I’ve been massaging my problem areas while taking a bath. I use a lot of pressure, (pain in my muscles pressure) and massage for around 15 min, until the whole surface gets good circulation, turns red and warm. After I get out I apply almond oil or anti-stretch mark cream ( one that stimulate collagen production) again with massage. 3 times a week I exfoliate my skin and apply the cream or oil again.
    I try to eat organic food a s much as possible, and have good balance of vitC, A, E and zinc.
    You look good now and I would advice you to stop losing weight so rapidly. Give your skin time to adapt. Reaching your weight goal will not be so sweet and rewarding with too much loose skin.

  26. Samantha says:

    My list is quite long for reasons I want to lose weight. I think the main one came when I was too embarrassed to even go to the gym. I’m pretty self-conscious that way I guess. Another one came when a college friend called and wanted to meet and after reminiscing about old times I realized how much weight I had gained and called back and made up some lame excuse. I know I have problems with weight lose. The biggest one being failure. I’m scared of losing it all and feeling absolute pride in myself only to gain it back. I guess we’ll see…best wishes to you all…

  27. Brian says:

    Great website!
    I am starting to work out again…although i am overweight, it was a routine physical that changed my life. High blood pressure, high cholesterol, high triglycerides. I really hate taking Atenelol for bp!
    Forget sex when you take antihypertensives. My doctor told me I was a stroke waiting to happen. What an epiphany! Life style change is not an option, it is a necessity. My motivation is to save my life.

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