Weekend Remorse

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  1. Ben says:

    For what it is worth, I have the same battle. I lose weight all week, then gain half of it back on the weekend. Years ago I knew a personal trainer who had lost all of his weight (about 275 lbs lost) and was (is now) head-to-toe muscle. In fact, I am pretty sure his hair follicles had little muscles on them, too. 😉

    Anyway, he always chided me for beating up on myself for cheating once or twice per week. He said it’s almost imperative that you do cheat at least once per week, as it keeps you focused and gives you a reason to work harder. Now, when I cheat I don’t go eat 3 Big Macs or anything like that, but I may go get a Snickers bar or something. The most important thing to do is to keep getting back on the saddle. I always remember the saying “to err is human”.

    Anyway, sorry for the novel! I LOVE your blog – you are an incredible inspiration for me!

  2. Paolo says:

    Yeeesh, I’m really (really) glad to know I’m not the only one feeling like this. I eat quite clean on the weekdays, and I’m most of the time able to still eat relatively clean on the weekends, but the past two weekends have been a blur of fried chicken, cookies, tortilla chips, and beer.

    You hit it on the head with the whole being ‘stuck in 2nd gear’ metaphor. I look at my fitness calender and I just see all the wasted potential time. I know you’ve said in the past not to beat yourself up about it, but damn, just sort of feeling myself starting to slip back into bad habits. That’s kind of discouraging, to be honest.

    I needed to read this. Thanks, Tyler, I really appreciate it.

  3. Tahra says:

    I once got some very good advice from a nurse at my OB/Gyn while pregnant. I was already overweight before I was pregnant, and I obviously didn’t want to gain a boatload more during pregnancy. She said “If you want ice cream, eat ice cream. Right away. But eat a reasonable portion. If you deny yourself what you want, you’re just going to built up the urge to binge when you finally give in.”

    You eat “healthy” 5 days a week, but are you scheduling treats in there? You’d be surprised how many treats you can find in the 100-150 calorie range. Or even less. If you have little indulgences it can stop the situation into becoming “I gotta eat all my favorite foods NOW because I have a social event as an excuse.” Hell, I’ve lost weight by having a different calorie range one day a week. It’s a “cheat” day, but not a crazy free-for-all.

  4. MizFit says:

    yesyesyes to all that Tahra said.
    MY plan (as in this may not be what works for you) when I was losing weight was to eat pretty damn clean and not take time off of working out during the week—that way there was built in flexibility on the weekends.

  5. Tyler says:

    Thanks, Ben. You’re right, you shouldn’t chide yourself for eating a couple of cheat meals a week. There’s a difference, though, living a healthy lifestyle most of Saturday and Sunday and having a cheat meal in between. That’s not what I’m doing.

    But, I’m determined to fix it.

  6. SandraLee says:

    I am with you Tyler! You have proven yourself to be a force to be reckoned with. You can do anything you set your mind to.

  7. Kyle says:

    Weekends can certainly be tough (especially during the summer). I went to my Aunt’s this weekend, and made the mistake of ordering a two-scoop ice cream cone from this local farm with insanely good ice cream. I should have got the kiddie cup, but I wanted the worst of it. I did go hiking and swimming over the weekend, so I didn’t feel super guilty, but imagine how I would have felt had I ordered the kiddie size…that much better (especially because I’m so close to my ultimate weigh-in goal). Will I touch ice cream the rest of the week? Nope. Could I? Sure, but I choose not to. It’s all about the balance. Last year I would have had a four-scoop sundae with marshmallow sauce, hot fudge, nuts AND a double cheeseburger, fries, and a regular coke. But for dinner before the ice cream I had some grilled chicken, veggies, and salad. So, when all is said and done I still have something to be proud of.

    It will always be a battle, but one we can learn and grow (err, lose) from. 🙂

  8. Elizabeth says:

    Being retired, the weekends don’t nail me as much, but boy do I understand peer pressure and gatherings! On top of that, my main issue is the snacking after supper.

    So, I will not snack and you will be a good boy this weekend.

    I was going to say Try but I love Yoda’s philosophy-just have to change do not to DO!

    Love your posts!

  9. Michelle says:

    I had an out of town wedding this weekend.. italian wedding.. ’nuff said. 🙂

  10. BuckeyeBetty says:

    Weekends are tough for me on food and alcohol. During the week, I plan every meal, pack lunch, snacks etc., have a healthy dinner. On the weekend, I just don’t want to think. I am worn out by the weekend. And frankly, I am sick of salads by then! I think the key is not to look at the weekend as your opportunity to cheat because you do not want to give yourself license to go crazy. Giving yourself license implies that you are depriving yourself the rest of the week. That keeps the food as a diet and not a way of life. So, don’t go crazy trying to eat everything you weren’t allowed to eat during the week, but do cut yourself some slack if you want a beer. This is a way of life, not a sentence.

  11. Dan says:

    I did the same this weekend…

    As long as you get back at it, it is no big deal. Cheat meals and excess calories can boost thyroid and metabolic function during times of low or restricted calories, so sometimes this is actually a good thing. If you keep cals well below maintenance for many weeks at a time, and you have a huge cheat meal or DAY, you can usually bounce back quickly, and sometimes even push past a set point.

  12. Lisa says:

    I think everyone struggles with weekend eating. I tend to splurge more on the weekends with eating out with friends or drinking too much at parties/events etc. Having that one extra glass of wine on a Friday night to relax. The way I remedy that is to have my intense/long workouts on the weekends to balance that out. It seems to help.

  13. Nicole, RD says:

    Found your blog through your interview on A Merry Life. I look forward to following! Congrats on all of your success – you are an inspiration!

  14. Miriad says:

    I don’t agree with the all or nothing mentality here. I think that leads down a dangerous path- if I can’t do it all the time, why do it at all.

    I think if you look at the pictures of yourself from even a year ago and you read your blog entires, you know why it isn’t all or nothing. Why you need to keep going even when it feels like you’ve fallen off the wagon. It may always be a struggle but it is WORTH IT, even when you don’t (or can’t) give all of yourself to the cause.

    You’re only one day away from a good day. Every day you make choices and you learn from them. This is about making changes to your behavior for LIFE not just for a few weeks or months. It takes time and there will be bumps in the road, as I’m sure you already know. 😉

    Hang is there, dude. You can do this. You know what you need to focus on, you know where your biggest problem area is. That’s an awesome place to start. *hugs*

  15. Tyler says:

    THAT’S what I’m talking about. I don’t have any weddings to go to on Tuesday.

  16. Tyler says:

    It’d be a lot tougher if I stayed at home all day. Food, television, bed, I don’t know how you do it.

  17. Tyler says:

    Man, we’re twins. Trust me.

  18. Tyler says:

    Your nurse is wise — you’re right, having temptations will only lead to bad things. It’s good to just eat a little bit of the junk food you’re craving, move on, and let that be that. It’s when you starve yourself, and crave it for days, when you binge and completely lose all control.

    Very good advice. And yes, I am scheduling treats, just not sweet tea, soda, etc., like I might indulge in during the weekends.

  19. Tyler says:

    I’ll talk to my wife and see if that’s possible. I’d love to, it’s just I have a lot of family responsibilities on the weekend.

  20. Tyler says:

    I hope so! We’ll see.

  21. Tyler says:

    That’s a good balance, I like your approach. And you’re right, before I started this journey that would have been my dessert as well.

  22. Mandy says:

    I feel the exact same way except my issue is i feel like a yo-yo I work my butt off to lose weight and usually a week will give me a 5 pound loss and somehow the next 2 or 3 days I manage to put every single pound back on. I’m starting to learn my lesson more so based on how I am feeling rather than the scale. I’m starting to feel like eating crappy on the weekends just isn’t worth feeling how I feel when I mess up. I like the other feeling of having energy and being proud. So today is Monday and I’m determined to make this weekend coming up one of the best.

  23. fatbride says:

    I am totally feeling you on this one. I was thinking about it at the gym this morning because I felt like I had lost some momentum since Friday. I felt like I couldn’t stay quite at the pace I was at after a full week of pushing myself. I felt pretty stupid for wasting all of that weekend time when just 30 minutes of gym time/activity would have been a huge help. Perhaps giving yourself a bit of lax time on food but still trying to get in some gym time would make you feel more accomplished….that is what I am going to try this weekend!!

  24. Tabitha says:

    I’ve totally been failing on the weekends, too, both in terms of my calorie intake and a lack of exercise. I need to fix this.

  25. Liza says:

    I am just starting out myself so people like you who have been on this journey for some time are a great inspiration to me! It also helps to know that people that have had great successes still struggle to keep their momentum going – that it ALWAYS take work! Keep up the good work!!!

  26. René says:

    I think you should go with “The Tyler Tank” – sounds more fluffy and much more trademarkesque ™.

    Keep movin!

  27. I hear you on weekends being tough. I also know that with family obligations, etc., it’s hard to fit in an hour-long workout like you might do on weekdays. What about getting up 30 minutes earlier both days to fit in a run one day, and some body-weight strength-training exercises both days? Combine that with a commitment to eating clean and healthy for breakfast, lunch, and snacks, and allowing yourself to splurge only at DINNER (or one meal per day), and you might take back 75% of what you’re giving back (in terms of weight) each weekend.

  28. amanda says:

    Very inspirational! I agree… weekends are tough work! I try to cram as many workouts as possible into the week so I can take it easy on the weekends. HAHA!

    Check out my own blog for my weightloss journey, recipes, motivational tips and nutritional / fitness advice. 😀


  29. Miranda says:

    I know exactly what you’re talking about! And holidays are the worst! My hubby chose Italian for his Father’s Day dinner. Italian is my weekness. And I don’t know many Italian restaurants with a “Light” menu! I posted a gain this morning. But one thing that helps me out is that my official weigh-in days are Mondays. It motivates me to do a little better on the weekend, and gives me the whole week to recover before the next one.

    Now to work really hard before the 4th of July comes around and does me in again! Good luck to you too, Tyler, and as always, thank you for sharing your journey.

  30. Lori Lynn says:

    I think weekends are a lot harder to stay “on course,” b/c they are so unstructured. Your schedules aren’t the same, and eating out is a lot more prevalent. I hope you have a better weekend! 🙂

  31. Aaron says:

    Overweight people know how to “celebration eat.” We can find a party in the most mundane of things…and this includes the weekends. I try and pick my spots. If we’re going to a friends house or have an event, I do the best I can in making sure I maintain control, but don’t beat myself up over it as I know Monday is around the corner and with it comes routine.

    But there are other weekends (like the one coming up) where we don’t really have anything planned and I’m going to tackle it with a vengeance knowing the 4th of July weekend is just around the corner.

    If I can get two good weekends out of the four in a month, I’m happy.

    I enjoy the blog…thanks for the inspiration…

  32. Cory says:

    Seems like we are all in the same boat…. weekends to me are camping, beer and crap food. Can I eat healthy while I’m in the woods? Of course. Do I? No. Do I hike, walk, swim? Yes. Does it make up for the beer etc… probably not.
    I’m a champ during the week, but I just can’t seem to “behave” on the weekends.
    Don’t get me started on family gatherings 😀

  33. Kim says:

    I think you are being too hard on yourself. You’ve increased your metabolism. That’s half he battle right there. You are better able to burn off those calories than you were before. Also, I think you need to eat more calories once in awhile or else your metabolism will also get stuck in a rut.

    Regarding the sweet tea, what I do is pour half a glass of sweet tea and fill the rest up with unsweet tea. That way it still tastes good but is less sinful. Besides, I think most sweet tea is just too sweet. 🙂

  34. Tara says:

    Sorry to be late to this party Tank.

    If anyone can bring the game to the field it’s you. Weekend’s are the hardest time for most people. Brandon over at http://www.solongfatass.com does this really great Weekend Warrior Challenge once a month where we come up with goals. Maybe you should do that too on the forums.

  35. Angela says:

    I have a similar issue, but it’s not so much weekends as it’s things that are out of routine. Like today, I ended up coming home early to do some work from home because I had a doctor’s appointment. It seemed like all I wanted to do was keep wandering into the kitchen for food. This is never an issue at work – mainly because there’s no extra food there.

    I had to finally just plot out my dinner so I could move on and get some stuff done. It was weird and something I know I have to work on.

  36. Laura says:

    I know this goes against the philosophy you’ve had so far but I think the next hurdle is eliminating your taste for sugar and junk food. Once you eliminate soda and sweet tea entirely you will truly lose your taste for it and not want it anymore. It’s a tough period going through the eliminate but once your body/taste buds adjust you are home free, you no longer have to force yourself not to eat it because you just don’t want it. Same w junk food, once you’re off it for a while the salty tastes is over the top and you don’t want much if any.

  37. Steve Kiges says:

    Hi Tyler, I just stumbled onto your blog and first of all very inspiring. You made a decision, you came up with a frame work and you live it. I lost 170lbs so I know the ups and downs and what it takes for the long haul. Because of this I’m not going to let you off the hook with “the weekends make me a bad boy” or “I’m a completely different person on weekends”. These are weak excuses that are way beneath the guy that you have become. Don’t get me wrong, I could care less if you pig out every weekend, what I am saying is your a powerful guy, you make big decisions and stick with them and if you decide to not follow your Monday to Friday food/exercise plan than make that decision. If it’s screw all weekends then live with that the fact that your weight loss will be slower. However, if it’s something that’s important to you, something that’s you want to take on as a challenge for even one weekend then do it! On Friday, map out your weekend activities, food plan, exercise…. figure out what/who you need to say yes to and what/who to say no to. Then go for it! If you want to make it fun, here’s a challenge, next week I will email you my weekend plan you email me yours or just post it. I bet you both of us will breeze through the weekend. Let me know. All the best, Steve

  38. Ms Mel says:

    Tyler, you have so much going for you, and I am deeply grateful for your site, your inspiration and your forum. However, this weekend thing scares me because that’s how people backslide and gain back every pound they’ve ever lost and then some. It begins with, “It’s the weekend…” and continues to, “I’m at my goal weight…” and ends with, “I’ve only put on a few pounds…” until it is all back on. I should know. Been there. Done that.

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