Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

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  1. Chrissie says:

    This is why I love this blog. You’re soooo right!

  2. MizFit says:

    my husbands father once said to him….when my husband was YOUNG…there will always be someone smarter faster richer etctec

    at the time (I think he was too young to hear this or just not ready) my husband was insulted.

    now? we quote that WISDOM all the time.

  3. Stefan says:

    I just read through all of your 123 pages and it’s truly inspiring. I’m currently working on losing 24 pounds in 10 weeks and after two weeks everything still looks great.

  4. Leah says:

    Heh… we’re such an “immediate” culture- wanting to have things perfected as soon as we start them. I blame the movie montage- I wish I could cut out all the boring parts of my training and keep the good stuff in a 2 minute clip.

    I used to only be able to use the elliptical. When I started on the treadmill I couldn’t run for more than 10 seconds. Then 30 seconds. When I could finally run a mile, it would take 11-12 minutes. Now I can run 13 miles in the mountainous woods of VT in under 12 minute miles, and a typical road mile in about 9:30. It’s NOT the fastest, but I worked REALLY HARD and for a LONG TIME to get here. I never look down on those who are slower or can run less miles- that was me at one point. And while sometimes I get jealous of the faster runners, or ones that can endure more miles, they worked just as hard if not harder to get where they are.

    Look to those who are where you want to be. It’s not a failure that you’re not there yet, it’s an inspiration that some day, it CAN be accomplished. Keep record of where you were. You’ll be amazed when you see your progress.

  5. Jill says:

    I don’t compare as much as I “goal set,” I guess. I look at someone with a similar build as me and say to myself, “That’s pretty much how I am aiming to look after this weight is off.” Or I meet someone in my field who is at a great job and/or doing great things and say, “That’s where I want to be at someday.” I try to keep the envy out of it because then I just end up feeling bad. But sometimes I can’t help it. I also look at old pics of me from when I was thin years ago and get envious of myself sometimes; kind of a strange concept, huh?

  6. Nathan says:

    Have you ever thought of working with some of the high schools in your area? You got the motivation kick that a lot of kids really need to see.

  7. Bonnie says:

    Just a note to say how much I appreciate your very positive style of writing which shows your very positive thinking. You’re positive, creative and funny. It makes for an enjoyable read, but more importantly, consistently encouraging.

  8. Jennifer says:

    Keeping in mind that at the time I was a size 24-26- One of the nicest compliments that I have ever received was about 7 years ago when an extremely fit woman (that I did not recognize) came up to me in the grocery store and told me how impressed she was by me. While I asked why I thought “why are you impressed? am I the fattest woman you ever seen? “- her answer to my why was that she saw me all of the time at the gym – working hard, sweating hard, breathing harder- what impressed her -while I was struggling with level 2 on the elliptical and 3mph on a flat treadmill – was that although I was not the fatest, strongest, fittest etc I was the hardest worker there and I kept going.

    I still struggle to exercise, maybe more now than ever, but every time I do exercise I try to keep that compliment in mind- it really helps to get me to do five minutes more or pick up the pace a bit (even if I am still a size 26!)

  9. P says:

    I realized that even though 3.0 was a challenging speed for me, I was carrying the weight of one extra person on my body, so actually, 3.0 is probably pretty fast. Let the skinny gal next to you try to walk/run faster than 3.0 when she’s carrying the weight of her body or more, and see how long she lasts. What matters is that I am there, I try, and judging by my heart rate, I’m right where I should be.

  10. Tyler says:

    Thanks! This is why I love comments! 🙂

  11. Emily says:

    just wanted to say great post and great comments above. such a motivational site, i love it.

  12. Tyler says:

    I’ve heard that quote before myself, which is what inspired the last paragraph of this post. There will always be someone out there better than you at one thing. Always. That’s why it’s important to stop comparing yourself to others and only measure yourself by your own progress in life.

  13. Tyler says:

    Congrats on the weight loss. I’m flattered you thought it was inspiring — appreciate you reading, as well as the comment.

  14. Tyler says:

    That’s a good accomplishment, I don’t even know if I could run 13 miles in 12 minutes! 🙂

  15. Tyler says:

    That’s a little strange, but a common theme I see a lot when I talk to people. They want to be who they were in high school, college, early in life, etc. There’s nothing stopping you from being like that again, though, if that’s what you want.

  16. Tyler says:

    I haven’t, but if somebody approached me I wouldn’t be against the idea.

  17. Tyler says:

    Thanks, Bonnie, oh so flattering!

  18. Tyler says:

    I think there’s a lot of people that aren’t judging, but proud of somebody they see in the gym taking control of their life. I’m sure my opinion COULD be different from others, but I don’t think it is, in thinking that everytime I see someone that is struggling in the gym, looks like they want to give up, I just want to go over to them and say, “I was there. You’ll be free in no time, just keep working.”

    It’s very encouraging when I see not only out of shape people, but in shape people too working out in the gym. It’s a collaboration of like-minded individuals, it fuels me.

  19. Tyler says:

    Whenever I forget how much I used to weight, I’ll pick up 2 x 60lb dumbbells — that’s a lot of weight to carry.

  20. Great post. Well written and good points.

    I wish my wife believed this…

  21. Cat says:

    Fantastic point!Thanks for the reminder. Although once I am at the gym I do shove those thoughts behind me, the timeleading up to the gym is very much a mental struggle.

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