Tip: Lose Friends if Necessary to Lose Weight
This is a post from my continuing series of Tuesday weight loss tips.
This might sound a little bit like A Modest Proposal (uh, minus the whole famine and eating children part), but I highly recommend never seeing any of your friends again if you really care about trying to lose weight.
Okay, I don’t really suggest doing that. But I do have a point.
I know you try all day to eat healthy. You take the time to make a healthy breakfast. By the time you eat breakfast in the morning you’ve already planned dinner for later that evening. After breakfast, your prepare your lunch to take to work. Not only do you have your meals planned in advance, but your workouts are just as important to your schedule as your job.
Then there’s Bertha.
We all have a Bertha in our lives. While most or at least some of our friends and family are supportive to our weight loss efforts, Bertha from accounting is poison. She’s not your best friend, but she’s a friend, someone who invites you to lunch a couple times to week at the local burger joint or Mexican restaurant to gossip over some chips and salsa. You join her when she asks, not wanting to be rude, and you use it as an excuse to pig out for lunch.
1,500 calories later you return the office guilty, stuffed, and drowsy.
Then, there’s Tucker.
Tucker is a close friend. He might even be your best friend, if it wasn’t for that thing that he did behind your back that one time. Personal issues aside, you’ve had a fairly good week and have been able to avoid Bertha at the office. Your healthy lifestyle is going well until Thursday night when Tucker calls.
He’s got a boy’s night planned.
He wants to go to the local sports bar for wing night for 20 cent wings and cheap draft beer. You don’t mind relaxing and enjoying a nice meal once in a while, but you already have a couple of things planned over the weekend and you know there’s nothing remotely nutritionally beneficial about wings.
But Tucker wants you to go. And, it’d be fun. You’d have a blast for a few hours, watch the Buckeyes football team beat some no name team to stay highly ranked, and have some good food. It’s be a blast until Friday morning, at least, when the scale shows that you gained 5 pounds overnight.
You can thank Tucker for those calories.
Tucker and Bertha are bringing you down. I know you have friends and family like them, maybe a brother, sister, co-worker, parent, or a spouse. I’m not really suggesting you cut ties with them to lose weight. They’re important to you, and of course, love is so much more than skin deep.
But. Yes, there’s a but.
But, one day, you’re going to look back at the last 5, 10, 15, or 25 years of your life and wish you were 25, 50, or 150 pounds lighter and wonder what it would have been like to live your life without that extra weight. You’ll wonder what it’s like to not have high blood pressure, diabetes, angina, or sleep apnea.
You’ll wonder what it’s like to have an extra 25 years on your life.
While you don’t need to lose any friends and family to live a healthy lifestyle, you shouldn’t hesitate for a second to give people an ultimatum: support you or else. You don’t need to ask people around you to change the way they’re living, but you need to let people know that you’re trying to change your life and while by no means do they need to help (even though that’d be nice), they also shouldn’t stand in the way of it either.
And if they do, well, then just maybe you shouldn’t keep them around. If you’re 100+ pounds overweight and your current circle of friends won’t support your efforts to change, leave them.
They’re not worth dying over.
Do you have somebody in your life not supporting you?