Tip: Stop Making Excuses for Weight Problems

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  1. Sean Nelson says:

    Would “I work in a brewery and need to perform sensory tests on the beer” count as one you’ve never heard before? That aside, the “not enough time in a day” excuse is one that I am very guilty of and continue to be.

    It’s also worth mentioning that I’m not horribly overweight… I am currently sitting about 175 lbs / 6’1. That’s certainly within the normal limits of the BMI charts and such. The thing is, most of that body weight is in fat content around the midsection, which is dangerous any way you slice it. I suppose I am starting to fall into the “fat skinny person” group. All that aside, that actually plays against me sometimes. I see 175 and think “That’s about normal, so it’s fine” … it shouldn’t be, and I know that. Now it’s just a matter of executing a plan about such

  2. Coryad says:

    Total truth. I use the ” no time” excuse at times but I know its just that, an excuse.
    Great post, nothing to offend and maybe a wake up call for some people.

  3. Mike says:

    Absolutely! If this post makes anyone angry, as you hinted earlier, then they should redirect that anger into a positive motivator to change.

    I WAS this post incarnate a year ago. I could not lose weight because I was unlucky to have been cursed with a slow metabolism. Yep, that was why I was FAT. There was nothing I could really do about the hand I had been dealt.

    Right. Total BS.

    I saw Tyler on a local news station telling his story, and I made a mental note of “344pounds.com”. A few days later, I started reading, and then I realized I probably had been fooling myself. I started educating myself about portion sizes and proper nutrition. I started putting that into practice. I also quit spending every evening, all evening, in front of the computer or TV, and started getting regular exercise.

    I am down about 60 pounds now since April. I haven’t spent a ton of money on special pre-packaged foods. I haven’t spend hundreds of dollars on supplements and magic pills. No surgery. No herbal teas. No fad diets. Didn’t even eliminate entire food categories from my diet. (Well, I did quit doughnuts, completely.)

    Eat less. Eat right. Move more. No more “slow metabolism”. I lost weight.

    I’ve said it before, and will say it over and over again. Thanks Tyler for not just being successful, but for having the courage to put it out there, for getting your message out. Sure, it is not a new concept, but seeing your success was the thing that finally made it click for me, and woke me up to my false excuse.

  4. Melanie says:

    It’s me @HouseOfTater 🙂 After being on hiatus for about a month (death in the family, holidays, school exams) I was talking just last night about NOT making anymore excuses with my trainer at the gym. It’s not about both my parents being overweight. Its not about my PCOS making me insulin resistant. Its not about being big boned. And it’s definitely not about the fact that I’ve always been overweight. You just made that lightbulb that turned on last night glow a little bit brighter. And I truly, from the bottom of my heart, thank you.

  5. Bob says:

    Nice post! You summed it up quite nicely. I recently went back and read your post on “10 Reasons Why Losing Weight is Hard” and I realize that number 11 for me was I needed a reason/breaking point to start my journey. When my son was born in 2002, I realized that being 50 pounds overweight wasn’t how I wanted to be. I wanted to make sure my bad eating habits and lack of exercise weren’t the reason I didn’t get to see him grow up. There are always challenges each year, but I always go back to the reason why I started my journey of healthiness when I find myself falling off the wagon.

    Don’t apologize for possibly offending people with your blog. Knowledge is power. You offer a little more strength with each post for those that want to read it. Thanks for sharing your life!

  6. Matt says:

    my favorite is the “I have a slow metabolism” as the excuse for being overweight. People who have a “slow” metabolism are still within about 10% of the a typical rate, but they’d still blame a variance of 200-300 calories as the reason why they are 100lbs overweight.

    When Steve over at Nerd Fitness (link above in my name) asked me what my biggest reason for success at losing weight was, this was my answer:

    “Setting aside all of the bull****. One of my favorite scenes from both the graphic novel and movie “Wanted” is with The Repairman. When asked by Wesley what he repairs, he simply states “A lifetime of bad habits” and then he proceeds to punch him over and over. That’s it right there.

    At some point, we all need someone to tie us to a chair and beat the crap out of us (metaphorically speaking) until we realize we have to be accountable for our actions and stop making excuses. [Steve’s note: AMEN.]

    “I’m tired. I’m hungry. I gained 10lbs after eating a Hershey’s kiss last night. It’s hard. It hurts. I’ll just circle the parking lot one more time to see if that spot opens up. I drank 12 beers and ate 40 wings over the weekend, but I don’t understand how I didn’t lose weight this week. It’s a holiday, so I’m federally required to eat 10,000 calories.”

    If you can’t be accountable to yourself…if you can’t stop lying to yourself, then you just aren’t ready to change.”

  7. will says:

    It’s a great post, man. Excuses are so much easier than genuine effort. We don’t have to be fat — we just have to do the work. Thanks for continuing to inspire so many of us!

  8. Amy says:

    I once did a test with myself to see how the excuses could fly out the window. For a period of 40 days, I gave up sloth, aiming to get SOME kind of excercise every day. I did get sick, I walked anyway, I was exhausted, I swam anyway. It might not have been a perfect workout, burning lots of calories, but I did it. The only thing that stopped e was an injury… a torn calf muscle that prevented me from even walking.
    BUT I did learn a lot. I learned that I can ALWAYS come up with an excuse not to excercise or whatever. I’m an excellent liar to myself so I knew that I’d have to get around that. I’ll try my 40 days of non-sloth again this spring to prove my point and to get around any excuses I come to.

  9. Erin says:

    Great post, Tyler. After your Facebook I was expecting something a lot more inflammatory, but this is just common sense.

    I was reminded of the etymology of “identity” from http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=identity:
    1560s, from M.Fr. identité (14c.), from L.L. (5c.) identitatem (nom. identitas) “sameness,” from ident-, comb. form of L. idem (neut.) “the same” (see identical); abstracted from identidem “over and over,” from phrase idem et idem.

    The same, over and over. Our very identity is the choices that we make every day, over and over. Just as unhealthy identities are built, new healthy identities can be formed.

    Great post!

  10. Great post! I have found myself guilty of these excuses far too often, especially with exercising. I simply need to find time to do it and make it a priority. I find time to do other things in my life; I can find time to exercise.

    I just found your blog and love it. This post today is great inspiration. Thanks!

  11. OK. I’m on board with the “no excuses” concept. What *does* make it hard is dumping the old, bad habits and exchanging them for the new, good habits.

    Sure. You can lose weight with junk food in the house but, geeze, that Hershey’s Kiss sure would taste good and, shucks, just one wouldn’t hurt, would it? You get the point.

    Or,let’s say you go out to dinner and you eat all the right stuff in the right portion size but your “habit” is to have a little dessert afterward (of course, there is nothing little in a restaurant). Breaking that habit is tough.

    It can be done. But, it’s tough, and it’s more than just saying “No excuses.” But, maybe, that’s just my excuse.

    On the journey…..

  12. Lizz says:

    I am soo guilty of the “no support from family/friends” I’m addicted to pepsi, 800 calories a day addicted! Every time I go on a kick to quit and refuse to buy more soda, my fiance has to have it (he’s NOT overweight by much maybe by 10-20lbs… while i’m overweight by 70)
    So off to the store I go to get more soda and there I go diving into my 5-6 12 oz sodas a day again.

    I LOOOOVEEEE this entry you posted. I’m going to print it out and hang it on my fridge!

  13. Dr. Larry Ferguson says:

    I could not agree more with this! Since July 7th I have lost 70 pounds and I have much more to lose. The reason I was and still am overweight is because of the choices “I” made not anyone else.

  14. Mel says:

    Great post, Tyler. The hardest part is getting others to see their excuses without offending them so much that you lose a friend. However, if you drop you own, do the work and keep living your regular busy life, with the same support group/or anti-support group, they’ll quickly see that THEY can drop their excuses, too. I’ve had more friends and colleagues tell me that my success inspired them, but the truth is, it wasn’t my success as much as my commitment.
    It IS hard, there are rough days, I rather wake up tomorrow looking like Jillian Michaels than keep having to work at finding what my best weight/shape really is. I’m still finding what the best calorie count for my metabolism happens to be, but the bottom line is I’m still trying, one day at at time, one meal/snack at a time, until I beat down these excuses so far that they no longer hold sway.
    I got myself into this mess. Only I can get myself out and stay there.

  15. Sheri says:

    Fantastic post Tyler! I use to be the person your talking too until I made up my mind I was going to lose weight!

  16. Sierra says:

    If I could hug you right now, I would.

  17. Richard says:

    Listen. I have a thyroid problem. And I’m clinically lethargic, too. So…

  18. Jennifer says:

    ok so I got up earlier than my usual 5:30 today (btw earleist gym around here opens at 7 I can start work no later than 7:30 and I am not going outside right now expected high of 28) but I did do an exercise dvd- only the short workout (20 min) but it is a start and I will do it again when I get home

    and I just ate an orange as a snack instead of hitting the vending machine
    small little baby steps perhaps – but still steps 🙂

  19. AFG says:

    Hells to the yeah! Hi, it’s your Facebook and now Twitter stalker, Bobbie or better known as Anonymous Fat Girl.

    I just wanted to say this needed to be written. It needs to be read. I used to believe this false truth. I would blame my weight struggles on our “family genes” because they are almost all fat. I would blame it on “hormones”. I would blame it on the fact I birthed three kids. I would blame it on everything but my choices.

    It’s a revelation and an empowering feeling when you take ownership of your behavior. Sure, it’s not always easy – I’ve had plateaus, I’ve gotten pissed that it’s not coming off as quick as others – but it’s my journey and I own it.

  20. Brian says:

    *raises hand* GUILTY!! Sure i’ve used these excuses a time or two. It’s easier than the alternative! But easier, isn’t necessarily better is it? I want to be proud of what I am accomplishing, and I want to feel the pain and the burn of getting there. So when I do, I wont fall backwards, because I never wanna feel that hurt again! You can make all the excuses in the book, day after day, but until you want to do it for yourself, than it doesn’t matter, because you will fail. When whatever it is in your head tha tneeds to click to make you get off your ass, happens, than you will not be ready to take the steps. My excuses are gone. My motivation is unmatched, and my inspirations are plentiful! I will succeed. I am 60 lbs down in a 200 lb weight loss journey, and you can bet your bottom dollar, I will not fail, because I have never been more determined to do anything in my life!

  21. Lizz,

    Not to step on any toes, but here’s a possible solution. If your fiance wants soda, make HIM go get it. He has to drive to the store, find it in the aisle, wait in line and pay for it. He has to drag it out to the car, drive home and bring it into the house/apartment.

    If he really, REALLY has to have it, he’ll do it. If not, then it isn’t in your house. But he should respect your desire to get rid of the soda habit by not “making” you be the one to get him his fix.

    I don’t know you or your relationship- this may not work for you. But it might be worth trying out and seeing how far along you get. It’s something new, anyway.

    – Alison

  22. Lyssa says:

    Don’t be so quick to judge. Many people out there have an allergy of sorts to food. In the same way that an alcoholic has towards alchol. We are powerless over our addiction, and while there is a 12 step program that can help us overcome it, there is no cure. Its not always about willpower, exercise, and watching what you eat. I am not angered by your post I just would hate for any of your readers who might have an issue/addiction to food to read this and internalize the blame on themselves any more than they already do. You would be surprised at the thousands of people across the world who struggle with this sickness.

  23. Denny says:

    Thanks for the advice. It is solid. I am an alcoholic. I quit a half gallon a day habit seven years ago. Smoked 5 packs a day for twenty years, quit that too. Food is just another addiction that I have to overcome. And this time I need to replace it with a healthy addiction. I know I have that type of personality. I just have to learn to work with it in a healthy manner. I only have about 250 pounds to lose. I can do it. Thanks Tyler.

  24. Liz Tee says:

    I’m over 50 now, old enough to have been on the weight gain-loss roller coaster a long time. I now know exactly what I’m doing wrong when I gain and exactly what I have to do to lose, but sometimes (ok, often) it’s really hard to get myself to do it. I also have learned you are absolutely right: There are no valid excuses, only my choices. It helps so much to hear you say it out loud. This is an amazing post. I’ll be back to read it over and over again, I’m sure.

  25. Pretty awesome blog post. I remember being that girl. “I don’t eat too much.” “My body just wants to be this size.” “I have a slow metabolism.”

    Then I went on Weight Watchers. Who KNEW that a meal-sized serving of pasta was one cup?? Weight FLEW off.

    Though the support system IS key. You will sabotage yourself if you try to lose weight in a house full of chips, soda, and candy. I’ve seen it time and again with family and friends. Your family doesn’t have to LIKE it or go all “rah rah” with you, but they may have to accept a house with no M&Ms. (It’s not like they can’t find that crap at every grocery store and gas station, you don’t need to stock it.)

  26. Lisa says:

    The 250 pound Me would have been furious and offended. I thought “I’d tried everything” to lose weight. I really didn’t. I didn’t try at ALL! In fact, while I may have half-assed workouts I never changed my eating habits. It wasn’t until I got serious about BOTH aspects that I started to lose weight.

  27. Dr. Aletta says:

    I loved this post! The formula is so simple, calories in less than calories out equals weight loss, but until we take responsibility for ourselves, face our fears and get on with it nothing will change. Thank you for saying it so well!

  28. Olvegg says:

    That is a great article although I doubt that everybody is “ready” to hear it. We all have core beliefs that are hidden behind our problems (I am not good enough, people will never love me) and before we are ready to see them we probably need support and facilitation. Some people will go down before they are ready to face their core beliefs, only if they are helped and supported they will be able to face themselves and win in the end. I do not mean you need to chew their food, but you need to work at their levels if you want to help them. I am sure this article is a great electrochoc for some and that will shake their mind and help them work it out, for others … maybe they will need to disconnect not to face themselves because it is way too hard to do.

  29. Annie says:

    I’d also add that losing weight and having a healthy lifestyle isn’t easy, but it’s definitely a worthwhile goal. You need to make smart choices everyday, but by doing so you feel better and know that you’re making a huge investment in your future health.

  30. Kris says:

    Harsh words? I don’t think so. I know I yo-yo dieted for almost 20 years, and had LOTS of excuses, including the no time one. At the end of the day, *I* had to decide I didn’t want to be obese anymore. It took four years, and several setbacks a new starts.

    But I eventually lost 107 pounds, dropping from 244 to 137. No one could TELL me to do it. No one could SUPPORT me into doing it. But once I decided, no one could STOP me, either.

    No one except ME. And I decided not to!

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